It's hard to have any kind of meaningful relationship without attraction. Obviously just being physically into someone shouldn't be everything, but it has to be something. After all, why would you want to be with someone if there wasn't something about them that you were into? The simplest way that attraction works is just thinking someone else is hot and being into that basic, physical part of them. Then you get to know someone and that can deepen. You can be attracted to their mind, to who they are and how they make you feel. That's a much stronger kind of attraction and it's definitely the one most of us want. But the thing about attraction is it can come and go. Someone seems awesome at first and then, after a while, maybe they display some unattractive qualities.ÂÂ
Now the crazy thing to think here is what if that's happened to you? What if your partner isn't as attracted to you as they used to be? How do you really know? Well, if they're not being open about it it's not the easiest thing to figure out, but we can try to help. Answer a few questions and we'll help you figure out if your partner finds you attractive or not.
It's date night! If you leave the whole thing up to your partner, where do you think the two of you will go?
Out to the club.
Go somewhere to talk and have a drink maybe.
Probably order a movie and stay in.
Unless it was a surprise, they'd ask me what I want to do, too.