How Woke Are You in Bed?

About This Quiz

In 2006, an activist named Tarana Burke founded what is now called the "#MeToo" movement, when she encouraged survivors of sexual assault to discuss their experiences starting with those words. In 2017, #MeToo went viral when activist and actress Alyssa Milano tweeted to her followers to say #MeToo if they had survived assault. As millions of women - and no small number of men - responded, the power dynamics of industries, relationships, and society were put under a spotlight, with many found wanting.

#MeToo didn't come from nothing, however. It is a tipping point, the product of generations awakening to the idea that our bodies are our own, and that only the body's owner can decide with whom to share it, when, and on what terms. This began with the idea, "No means no". It challenged centuries of thinking that said "no" was token resistance, or at most, the starting point of a negotiation. This evolved into the more nuanced, "Yes means yes", which understood that someone may be too intimidated, drunk, or shy to say no, but this doesn't mean "yes" can be assumed. This shifted the onus from the less-powerful partner and encouraged the more-powerful partner to proactively seek consent.

Being woke in bed means knowing this history, but instead of seeing consent as a legal or moral hurdle, embracing the beauty that is only possible when equal partners come together in mutual desire and respect. Nothing is sexier than a truly enthusiastic and freely-given, "Yes! I want you; I want this!" and nothing feels better than intimate encounters that include these sentiments.

Have you made the leap? Let's find out!