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About This Quiz
The course of true love rarely runs smoothly, but it is far more likely to do so if the people who are in love are willing to compromise, treat each other respectfully even when things are going horribly wrong, put their partner first, and truly admit to themselves and each other what their vulnerabilities are.ÂÂ
A relationship can't be founded on a bedrock of lies, nor will it function well if either party is more in it for themselves than they are for the team. It's hard work getting it right, but the payoff is tremendous.
Naturally, none of this applies to you and your significant other. After all, your relationship is one of pure harmony. You're emotionally mature people with good boundaries who know never to let a conflict go un-tackled and who are on the same page about all of the major issues a couple could possibly face: money, religion, kids, lifestyle, and so on.ÂÂ
You magically know what your partner wants in bed, and you absolutely never imagine your single life. Infidelity is an impossibility, disappointment a myth, and the odds of breaking up are between slim and none. Right?ÂÂ
Just in case you want to confirm that one more time, maybe you should take this quiz.
If you weren't lovers, would you be friends?
Besties, yes
We would certainly hang out.
I would invite them to parties.
No, we don't have much in common except each other.
Do you like their family?
Yes, they are the best!
They're great people but we don't have the most in common.
They are boring and their values are weird but they're not actively annoying.
They are insane bigoted mouth-breathers.
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Do you see your boo in your future 50 years from now?
I cannot see any other future.
Absolutely, but greyer and saggier
I hope so.
I don't think that way.
If they gained 20lbs, would you still love them?
They did, and I do.
Yes, but I would secretly wish they hadn't, or not-so-secretly badger them to lose it.
I like to imagine I would.
I'm not that deep.
If you gained 20lbs, would they still love you?
I did, and they sincerely did not notice.
I did, they still love me, but they support my efforts to lose it.
They would but they would be super disappointed.
I doubt it.
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Can you just sit quietly together and not talk, and be completely comfortable?
That is my happy little bubble place to be! I call it the Smile Bubble.
Usually, yes.
No, because talking to them is so endlessly interesting.
It could get weird, I won't lie.
How would you characterize your disagreements?
Arguments or disagreements
Debates or rows
Fights
We never disagree.
Do you know how they feel about kids?
Yes, we want the same number.
Yes, we are in the same ballpark.
No idea
I know - and we disagree wildly.
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Do you respect their attitude to faith, whatever it is?
Yes, we have the same attitude.
We disagree with full respect.
We disagree with what you might call a raised eyebrow.
One is a believer, the other is not, and it's an issue.
Would you change anything about them if you had a magic wand?
I would help them see themselves as I see them so they can know how lovely they are!
I might make them a smidge thinner.
I would make them earn more.
Yes, I have a list, let me just get that for you...
Have you ever been through a difficult period health-wise, and not broken up?
Yes, we have each had our turn nearly dying and it even involved a long-term change in lifestyle for one of us.
Yes, one of us had a major life-threatening incident.
Not yet but we have handled minor things like norovirus and the flu.
No, that sounds icky.
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How about a period where you struggled financially?
Yes, some years
Yes, some months
One of us was fired once, it sucked.
No
What's the biggest secret you've kept from them?
Generally stuff to do with feeling kind of bad about myself that I think I need to work on myself
Generally stuff to do with small negative thoughts I have about us or about their family that would only upset them and aren't a big deal
Some of my doubts about us that I have not resolved
So much, including health and money stuff and that time I sold their car and pretended it was stolen
How often do you need to be the heck away from them for a while?
A few times a week for a few hours, plus a couple times a year for a couple days
Every day briefly at least
I fantasize about them just not being there sometimes.
Most of the time
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Do you complain about them to your friends?
No, only to my mom who is wise and helpful.
Only to one or two very selected friends and only for constructive advice.
Sure, you gotta rant somehow, get it out of the system.
Yes, my Facebook friends!
How often do you thank them?
Several times a day - including one general one if I can't think of anything, because you know there was a reason and I missed it.
Once a day
A couple times a week
Whenever they are nice
How often do you laugh together?
Several times a day, sometimes so hard it hurts my tummy.
Once a day
Twice a week
We're not goofy that way.
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If you suddenly won a holiday, and could choose between two destinations, would you choose their favorite or your favorite?
Our favorite is the same favorite! Yay!
Their favorite
My favorite
I would take my BFF to my favorite.
How accurately can you order for each other at a restaurant?
85% of the time
Half the time
A third of the time
I order for them because they never choose wisely.
Do you feel like they absolutely support your dreams?
They would give up everything for my dreams, and I would for them.
They see our dreams as equally important.
They see my dreams as very important but not at the cost of their dreams.
They see my dreams as a hobby.
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How often do you go to bed angry at each other?
Sometimes we say "This is not resolved but we're tired and will talk about it some other time" then give each other a slightly sulky kiss.
Never
Once in a while
Often
Would you trust them with the password to your phone and email?
Of course, I don't care if they look at my stuff.
They know where to find it in an emergency.
God no, that's weird.
That is a bad idea since they are not my only boo.
How about with access to your bank account?
We have a joint account, so yes.
We have a joint account they can access but also separate ones, but we do know about those ones.
We do not mingle finances, we're just not there yet.
Absolutely not
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How often do you find yourself eyeing other people with interest?
Once in a blue moon, I'm human after all.
Once a month
Once a week
Once a day
Do you mind when your boo spends a night out with their friends?
I encourage it, they gotta have a life outside me.
I don't mind, gives me a nice break.
I do not like it but I tolerate it.
I laid down the law on that one early on.
Do you have any hobbies in common?
Many, but some separate too
A couple
One
No, we are very independent.
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What's something cool you've learned from your boo?
I like myself more because of them and I stand up for myself more too.
I learned to compromise.
I am better at cooking.
That I am OK by myself.
What's something cool you've taught to your boo?
I showed them that they are allowed to set a boundary and not be bullied or manipulated.
I taught them to paint.
I taught them to drive stick.
I'm not sure.
How often do you brag about your boo to other people?
Constantly, I fear I bore them but I don't care.
Whenever I can get it into a conversation.
Regularly
Once in a while
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